A little help

[Cassie]

My boyfriend just joined the National Guard, and I'm a little scared because I don't know what to expect...can anybody help me out with how I should handle this news?

[SoldierofAmerica]

You should be very proud of him and let him know that you are. Training is tough and he will need your love and support to help him through it. Unfortunately you will have to be apart for a long time during training, depending on his MOS anywhere from 4-18 months. Since he is in the Guard, you will not have to move. The time you spend apart can go two ways, you can grow apart or you can use the time to better yourself for each other and have a fresh start afterwards. Which way it goes depends on your attitude and actions while apart. Write him as many letters as you can while he is at training,

A benefit of being in the guard as apposed to enlisted army is that after training your life can go back to normal and he will be a better person because of it; physically and mentally.

Of course there is a chance of deployment, depending on his MOS probably a high chance, however being in the guard generally puts you in safer places with little or no Violence.. I have a few friends in the Guard who went to Iraq/Kuwait and never heard so much as a gun shot.

Being deployed will be hard on both of you but keep in mind that hundreds of thousands of couples are right there with you, you are not alone and it is something that you can cope with.

(He will get paid a lot more while deployed, active duty pay, overseas pay hazard pay etc…)

I personally would recommend Full time enlistment, why go through all the training and risk of deployment without all the benefits? Being that you are only dating, however the guard may be the better way to go. The Army offers a lot of benefits for married soldiers and their dependants, if you two ever tie the knot I would highly recommend looking into it (For both of you, The Army offers great opportunities for women as well, My wife is joining with me)

Well I hope that helps you, if you have anymore questions do not be afraid to ask.

[ARMY MEDIC WIFE]

You should be very proud of him. my husband is in the guard and it is great. you get the best of both worlds. 3/4 civilian and 1/4 military.

[ILoveMyArmyManJustin]

My boyfriend just joined the National Guard, and I'm a little scared because I don't know what to expect...can anybody help me out with how I should handle this news?


My boyfriend justin just joined the national guard to. Well, the way i have handled it is that i think aboutthe good stuff, i try not to think about what could happen. My boyfriend tells me not to worry about him leaving or being in the army, but how can you not worry??...you know. But the advice that i can give you from my experience is just spend the time you have left with him until he leaves for bootcamp, and when he does leave just write him lots of letters...stay in touch as much as you can... and try not to think about the bad things, think about the good things that hes doing for our country and how strong hes being just for doing this. What is your boyfriends name??

[jkramer]

my boyfriend is in the guard . ii think its great and you should be extrememly proud. the guard ahs many excellent benefits! you get to enjoy the best of both worlds - civilian and military. its great!