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Msshmalrdy
07-12-2007, 02:06 AM
feels like yesteray i was just writing on here about my feelings on shane leaving for iraq but now hes left the world...
my name is jessica and the love of my life passed away in iraq 3 weeks ago... Shane was the name. He was PFC Stinson originally based in GA. He had only been there 3 months but luckily he had his RnR early he had it in end of may so i only saw him a month ago... He passed away June 23rd. He is the love of my life and i had spoke with him on the 22nd and he was fine and dissapointed i wasnt pregnant. I went to cancun the next day when he passed and it was hidden from me from his family and mine back here in CA at home. I had a weird feeling something was up so the 28th which was a thursday i called shanes house here in cali and spoke to his step father he said shane was fine and that he would let him know i called and i love him and ill be home for him to call in a couple days... so the next day friday i was like o well im going to go in the computer lab they had at the hotel to see if my baby wrote me and i got on stupid myspace of course and messages pouring in im sorry for ur loss hes in a better place... and each person i read more and more and im thinking OMG no... so i cried hystarically and i called my mom and she finally told me. We had his veiwing and funeral last week im still in shock and although i saw his body in open casket i dont believe it... i feel im still waiting for him to call........ shane and i had the best relationship it was surrounded with so much love... i never thought i could love or be loved as much as him and i did.... it was truely amazing and its going to be yrs and yrs that i ever find someone else nobody will ever be like shane but i do know as my guardian angel he will make sure im well taken care of like he did maybe not as good but i know he will make sure im taken care of. i miss him so much i have my days where im locked in a room... i still havent gone to work im not ready to yet bc just reminds me he used to come in or wait for me bc he would pick me up... he promised me he would be to much of a hero bc i had told him he was already one so jsut get his job done and come home safe and he said "of course babe why wouldnt i? i will be with you forever and we are going to have a fb team of kids and a nice house". shane and i planned our future till we were 100 yrs old. shane was the type of person who i dont think would of come back a little ****ed in the head but he would appriciate what we have here alot more he already mentioned that... i spoke with him the day b4 he passed and i also got a letter from him that day and i also got a letter july 3rd that he wrote after we got off the phone... i just wish he would call bc i have so much to tell him like im so close with his family... mine and his go to dinner and they want me to go to vegas for his uncles wedding and i talk to his mom 2-3 times a day and his cousin everyday and his aunt every week... his family and i being so close was so important to him in fact the last letter he wrote was "that he was so happy im getting so close with his family". I had met his dad for the 1st time and he told me my son talked so much about u and thank u so much for taking care of him and i wish i was aat ur wedding not his funeral.... then of course i had to deal with jen drama and stephanie which are ex gfs but not so much but man my nightmare was her being there and she was.... shes so childish is all i have to say. but anyways i had so mcu faith he was coming home bc he had so much faith and the day b4 he passed he asked me to move to Georgia with him when he returns... im just still in shock im still waiting for him to call.... drives me nuts....
i need major help.... im stuck i feel awful... please write me here or email would be better msshmalrdy@hotmail.com

foreverxyours
07-12-2007, 02:51 AM
feels like yesteray i was just writing on here about my feelings on shane leaving for iraq but now hes left the world...
my name is jessica and the love of my life passed away in iraq 3 weeks ago... Shane was the name. He was PFC Stinson originally based in GA. He had only been there 3 months but luckily he had his RnR early he had it in end of may so i only saw him a month ago... He passed away June 23rd. He is the love of my life and i had spoke with him on the 22nd and he was fine and dissapointed i wasnt pregnant. I went to cancun the next day when he passed and it was hidden from me from his family and mine back here in CA at home. I had a weird feeling something was up so the 28th which was a thursday i called shanes house here in cali and spoke to his step father he said shane was fine and that he would let him know i called and i love him and ill be home for him to call in a couple days... so the next day friday i was like o well im going to go in the computer lab they had at the hotel to see if my baby wrote me and i got on stupid myspace of course and messages pouring in im sorry for ur loss hes in a better place... and each person i read more and more and im thinking OMG no... so i cried hystarically and i called my mom and she finally told me. We had his veiwing and funeral last week im still in shock and although i saw his body in open casket i dont believe it... i feel im still waiting for him to call........ shane and i had the best relationship it was surrounded with so much love... i never thought i could love or be loved as much as him and i did.... it was truely amazing and its going to be yrs and yrs that i ever find someone else nobody will ever be like shane but i do know as my guardian angel he will make sure im well taken care of like he did maybe not as good but i know he will make sure im taken care of. i miss him so much i have my days where im locked in a room... i still havent gone to work im not ready to yet bc just reminds me he used to come in or wait for me bc he would pick me up... he promised me he would be to much of a hero bc i had told him he was already one so jsut get his job done and come home safe and he said "of course babe why wouldnt i? i will be with you forever and we are going to have a fb team of kids and a nice house". shane and i planned our future till we were 100 yrs old. shane was the type of person who i dont think would of come back a little ****ed in the head but he would appriciate what we have here alot more he already mentioned that... i spoke with him the day b4 he passed and i also got a letter from him that day and i also got a letter july 3rd that he wrote after we got off the phone... i just wish he would call bc i have so much to tell him like im so close with his family... mine and his go to dinner and they want me to go to vegas for his uncles wedding and i talk to his mom 2-3 times a day and his cousin everyday and his aunt every week... his family and i being so close was so important to him in fact the last letter he wrote was "that he was so happy im getting so close with his family". I had met his dad for the 1st time and he told me my son talked so much about u and thank u so much for taking care of him and i wish i was aat ur wedding not his funeral.... then of course i had to deal with jen drama and stephanie which are ex gfs but not so much but man my nightmare was her being there and she was.... shes so childish is all i have to say. but anyways i had so mcu faith he was coming home bc he had so much faith and the day b4 he passed he asked me to move to Georgia with him when he returns... im just still in shock im still waiting for him to call.... drives me nuts....
i need major help.... im stuck i feel awful... please write me here or email would be better msshmalrdy@hotmail.com

I'm so sorry to hear about your spouse. We all don't like this war either!!! I know it's hard but he died for this country and for all of our freedom. May God bless his soul!!!!

kmullins
07-12-2007, 11:33 AM
so sorry for your lose. my husband is due for deployment in January. it will take some time, but it will get better.

Exo1
07-12-2007, 01:51 PM
My condolances on your loss..
Regards,
Exo..

Kayla
07-12-2007, 02:58 PM
Hi, im soo sorry to hear about your loss. my nightmare has become your reality, you are in my thoughts and prayers. stay strong you will get through this. it will take time but you have a lot of love and support!! keep smiling:)

Nightflyer
07-12-2007, 07:06 PM
I'm sorry for your loss. God bless.



Nightflyer.
Army Aviation.
Black berets forever.

bassingirl969
07-12-2007, 07:52 PM
i'm so sorry for your loss. i know that no amount of words will help you. i pray every day that my fiancee won't be deployed even though i know thw chances are high. you're in my thoughts and prayers. god bless you

Fireball
07-13-2007, 11:11 AM
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i need major help.... im stuck i feel awful... please write me here or email would be better msshmalrdy@hotmail.com

Hey there,

My heart goes out to you. I KNEW his name sounded familiar... I saw his name in the Army Times... I am so sorry for your loss. I cannot imagine all the emotions you are going through at this time. There are wonderful groups on post and off that can help support you at this time. It is normal to go through the feelings you are going through... I recommend talking about these feelings with a grief counselor if you haven't already. They are great at helping you sort through your thoughts/hopes/dreams -- listening... helping you keep healthy during a time when you're torn in many different directions. Sometimes it is hard to talk to family - hard to be strong... hard to hold it together...

One group that comes to mind is TAPS... http://www.taps.org it stands for Tragedy Assistance Program. Go to the site... it is amazing..

Wishing you well...

I will email you soon!

Common Sence
07-16-2007, 06:53 PM
Mssh, as someone who has been on this forum for quite some time, I feel a need to apologize for what SSG just did.
I had somehow missed this thread untill I just read a post by Nightflyer.

We all lose the one we love wether it is in our passing or in their passing. We all would say they were our best friend, we all would say they were the light in our hearts and our lives. We all would say we are thankful for the time that we had. We all would run the gambit of emotions. Some of us, a very few can say we are proud, a very few of us can say there love was brave and selfless. You can, and that is something that can never diminish.

Respectfully
CS

Exo1
07-19-2007, 03:37 PM
Thanks Grimm for removing that ****bags SSG Winters post.... desrespectful little ****...

Once again, my sincere condolances on your loss, and I hope the positive contributions from our fellow members has helped a little....

Kind Regards
Exo..

europeanfigther
07-20-2007, 12:28 PM
im sorry for your loss

chadchilders
07-20-2007, 02:08 PM
I really am sorry for your loss. I was deployed to OEF and OIF and I had friends die in both places. There is nothing I could say to express to you how appreciative I am to your husband and every fellow brother in arms that has laid down the ultimate sacrifice. I wish there was something i could say to make you feel better. Take care and God Bless you and your family.

michigansoldier84
09-20-2007, 05:53 PM
I'm sorry to hear about your loss, when I served out there i had some of my friend die. It's a on going healing process, but that is a good thing. To never forget him as a husband and as a soldier. Hope you and your family are getting better.