This upsets me!

[mandee2008]

Well I've been thinking a lot latly. I really wanna go into the Army...but i have to wait a couple more years. But the thing that upsets me is that my mom said she would rather have me be in the Navy. I dont wanna disappoint her but i would rather join the Army. My neighbor who i care about a lot being the fact he is my friend joined the Army last August and I miss him so much! Our heighborhood isnt a great neighborhood its full of a lot of drugs and stuff...and its great seeing someone from our neighborhood actually do something with there life and i am sooooo proud of him! I miss him so much. I just got off the phone with him about 30mins ago and he might not be coming back to visit cuz of his leave days and it makes me really sad cuz i havent seen him in almost 1yr and im so use to him walking over to my house and just walking in and plopping down on the couch or my bed or something! But back to the thing with my mom...has anyone else ever had this problem where their parents disapproved and if so what did you do? and how if you did join still what did you tell your parents!? I appreciate it soo much! :D :(

[headpopper]

im kinda in the same situation you are in except i live in a great neighborhood and i have no lover that joined the military...my parents want me to be in the navy too....but only to be a seal like my dad was...i dont wanna be in the navy for the simple fact i cant hold my breathe for shyt...soo im jus gonna be an army ranger...but my parents both are pissed at me and wont hardly talk to me...but im gonna stick with my decision becuz i dont want them chosing my life....i mean who wants there parents controlling every aspect of their life NOT ME!! and you shouldnt either now if you wanna make her happy and you be misrable then go ahead! holla

[mandee2008]

Yea i dont want my parents running my whole life! It would suck to do something i didnt wanna do! I wanna do something i love and love something i do! I wanna get college paid for my the Army but im not sure how to get started since im only in the 9th grade...i may go into the marines so im deciding between marines or army?! so yea...thanx for replying! ttyl :D

[Dishonered Soldier]

Hey Mandee, I don't think your mother is dissaproving of the army because she wants to run your life. more because she doesen't want you to ruin your life. I'm a vet, I just got out of the army a few months ago and I did 10 months in afghanistan with the infantry. If you want to do something with your life trust me, the army isn't going to help you. you'll be worked to death for low pay, verbally abused on a daily basis and every moment and aspect of your life will be controlled by people who are basically to weak and pathetic to make it on the outside which is pretty much why they stayed in for so long. and while it may seem cool and exciting to get deployed to a foreign country, its all fun and games until you lose a leg or an arm, then its not fun anymore. I served with a guy who had his entire lower jaw blown off, he was 20, and now he'll be a freak for the rest of his life, and for what? your a woman so they'll probably tell you you won't be in combat but that doesen't doesen't mean you coulden't step on a land mine and have to get fitted with a nice new plastic leg. the army won't care either, they'll throw ya a medal, say good job and wash their hands of it. you probably hear the term "serve your country" pretty often, but few people realy know what it means. the truth is its a meaningless saying, noone in iraq or afghanistan is defending their country right now. their dieing and watching their friends die and coming back to the states with 5 million mental problems so that this "great nation" can have more and more oil. pretty much mandee the army is THE WORST branch of the military you could join. if you wanna go in, thats admirable; but go someplace that will treat you witht he respect you deserve instead of just viewing you as a cheap labor slave like the army will. when I first went in my mother begged me to join the airforce or the navy but I thought she was just trying to control my life. don't make it into a power struggle, the army is an ugly ugly place. and the longer people stay in it, the uglier they become inside. I hope you put some serious thought into it, once your in its VERY difficult to get out.

[basilio]

I am currently in the AF, and why because my dad was in the AF and talked me into joining myself. I was going back and forth between Army and AF but finally went with what my parents wanted. I was fine at first until I deployed to Kyrgyzstan. There I noticed that my job was to support the Army and Marines and make sure there plane got to its destination. After that I realized I did wrong thing. I hated the fact that I was staying up range and supporting the war rather then going down and fighting. In the end its up to you. You still have a long time to decide but when you make your decision you are stuck with it. Luckily they started this new program to where I can switch over before my enlistment is up but stuff like that isnt always going to be there. So think hard about it and dont join just cause you miss your friend and you think you are going to get sent to the same base as him because you probably wont.

[capwil]

My family history dates back to pre WWI, when all my forefathers were in the army and fought. My dad didn't fight in any major battles but he was in the army for 20 years. I'm with the army reserves. I trained with the AF as a cadet, and then when I became an officer I changed to army due to the fact that I didn't have to drive as far! I know many people that stayed in the AF and do visit regularly when we have our "downed pilot/plane" exercises. My father didn't approve or disapprove of any decision I have made, as it is ultimately my decision!

I grew up and later joined the forces with several of my friends. Now we are scattered all over the world. The closest is 3400 miles away!