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sweetashoney
05-22-2005, 12:49 PM
Hi everybody!

As said in the title, I am very sorry about posting this thread but I would appreciate it VERY much if you would help me, though!
Well, to start with, I am a girl from Germany. From the first time I visited the US(that was with 7 and then again as an exchange-student from the year 2002 to 2003), I have fallen in love with the US and its people. When I came back from my exchange year, I met a US soldier at a club in Germany(I know, it's a horrible place to meet somebody).Well, we fell in love and saw each other on a regular basis(he even called me every SINGLE day- isn't that sweet?!) until he became a little strange. E.g. he didn't call me that often anymore, behaved differently, just to list a few facts. Anyways, we broke up after 4 months of relationship and I was pretty hurt.
About two months ago, I was called up by him again(after not having talked with him in 5 months)-Eric(that's his name) wanted to apologize for his behavior and asked me if I wanted to meet him again...well, I gave in. From then on, he was back to being a very caring boyfriend and was just the sweetest guy you could ever imagine...yet, he went back to being a fool once again about 2 weeks ago after I had visited him on base for the first time. He stopped calling me although we did not even have an argument or fight and when I went to a bar, I saw one of the guys Eric works with, so I asked him how Eric was doing. I couldn't believe what he told me- he(the guy) had seen Eric with another girl on base about three weeks prior to this day... I am just SO confused right now because I'm totally in love with Eric but I fear that it's just one-sided love...but, then again, why would you call up your ex-girlfriend if you did not want to have a relationship with her? *HELP* Do you think Eric could be some kind of player?
Well, I hope you will be able to help me(I'm just SO sad and shocked-life is horrible right now). Thank you SO much already for your help, I appreciate it VERY much!
Have a wonderful day and lots of love from Germany,

Natalie

mandee2008
05-22-2005, 01:01 PM
Well I'm from America...a lot of guys here are "players" Our country is so ridiculous when it comes to relationships. We have sooo many divorses and break ups its not funny. Either 1 no offense you werent giving him good enough sex (guys are like that) or he wasnt ready for a commiment so he left you hoping he would loose feelings for you. I know a lot of guys like that...most are scared of commiment so they leave the person there with going and finding someone else hoping they wont get those feelings for that person and wanna loose feelings for the person before. So I'm really sorry you had this bad experience...just remember a guy isnt worth your tears and the one who is wont make you cry! If you wanna talk and have aim IM me at bpkbabygirl2008 or on yahoo messanger at sk8erlover1822008 ttyl
~*Mandee*~

sweetashoney
05-23-2005, 05:49 AM
Mandee, thanks a lot for your reply...well, I wrote "my" story because I thought that the Army makes guys become like Eric-I forgot to write that he had been in the Army for 3 weeks before I met him. Because he acted like a "normal" guy(like the ones I met while I was living in the States) in the beginning and became strange after about 3 months, I suspected that the Army(or his surroundings so to speak the other Army guys) influenced or brainwashed him. I just can't explain to myself how anyone can change so rapidly and in such a bad way. Do you know what I mean? And, do you think that it could be the Army that made him become a "player"? From what I've heard from other people, most of the US soldiers over here behave as if they were godlike and just play around with girls. It's just very frustrating because none of the guys I met in the States were like that(not even my ex-boyfriend).
US soldiers who are currently living in Germany and anyone who has an opinion on this topic, please feel free to write me(natalee@freenet.de)- I would love to hear what you think about my thesis!

Jynx
05-23-2005, 08:58 AM
oigevolvien............
did i spell that right?
distance relationships suck mate, woodnt bother wut?