Hello all! My husband of five years just left for Basic in Fort. Benning, GA a week ago. It has been tough, prolly the toughest thing we've been through yet. I am currently living in Illinois. We have two small daughters, Mckayla who is five and Morgan who just turned a year old in Feb. The first days all I did was cry. Its very lonely. He has gotten to call three times so far and I have recieved 3 letters from him so far. I no my loneliness doens't even compare to what he is goin' through, but none the less.... it still is hard. I can't wait to be with him again.... I feel like we aren't even a family now. My oldest daughter was really upset today.... she just started crying out of the blue, for no reason. I have many fears, a lot of things are unanswered right now. I would really like someone to talk to... someone who is going through the same thing. My email addy is emilybartkiewicz@yahoo.com, I also have yahoo messenger. Hope to talk to yall soon.

my husband joined the reserves last year. we plan on going active as a family here very soon. we have 3 small children ranging from 4-9. though my kids are thrilled daddy is a soilder, there were times they cried when he wasnt home. maybe it will help your kids to talk to other kids who have went through this. kids love to tell kids about there soilder dads i have learned. you can email me if you want to chat more. mimhammer@yahoo.com

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Thank you everyone for your kind words. Hope to talk to you all soon! God bless.

dont forget to send some kind of letter everyday. even if's its just a picture the girls drew for daddy. my husband said on the days he didnt get anything, he felt down.

I don't want to upset you even more...But get accustom him being gone now he's in the military. This is the best time to get a Hobie to keep you busy that always helped me. Have your kids draw pictures at lest once a week to send to dad. Show the kids his picture and tell them Daddy is protecting them and our country. Once you get to your 1st duty station it will be a little easer once you meet the wives in the family support group and your new neighbor's. Always remind your self how much you love him and the great things he is willing to do for you, your family and our country. Let your husband know how much he means to you every time you talk to him on the phone and try not to burden him with problems going on back home. He has enough on his mind being in Basic Training. You will get threw this time and next time he has to go somewhere. Always stay true to your soldier and be strong him, for your self and your kids. Take care, You will do fine.

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Hello i know exactly how you feel my husband and i have only been married for 4 and a half months and he just went through BCT in FT. Jackson S.C. he just grad. fri. and it was a very long 9 weeks and very frustrating because the whole time i only got 5 phones calls and 10 mins each its really hard. But when i got to see him it was great i was so worried about every thing the way he was going to look and if we would be the same and as soon as i saw him we went back to being the same like he never left. But he has changed but for the better. And then sat. i had to let go again and it hurt worse than the first time but you here from him so much more in AIT. And if i made it through 9 weeks of BCT then anyone can do it even the days when your numb and you dont realize your crying until the tears are rolling down your face i cried every single day. But i lived!!! Anytime you need to talk im new at this tooo!!!


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About a year and a half ago I was in the same situation minus the kids. My husband went to Fort Benning as well. I know it doesn't feel like it now but as you adjust to the routine without him it will get easier. You will still have days that you are extremely down, but they pass. You become a stronger person each small barrier you overcome. I always loved getting my phone calls, but I found those were the hardest days too. It reminded me he wasn't home. Keep your letters you get from him. They love getting mail. Send something as much as you can. He wants to feel connected to home as much or more than you want him home. You will surprise yourself. hang in there. If you want you can email me hiwasseejen@hotmail.com

I have totaly props to military wives they have the toughest job out there they have to be mom dad friend and sister and rolled up in one.... the main thing is keep your eye on the ball know what and why your doing this with your husband. You guys are a team and that he will lean on you as much as you lean on him he may not show that he is sad or lonley or misses his kids but trust me, he does and most of all his worrys about you will be ten fold what they are when he is at home.... Also another thing to remeber this may only be for four years or it may be twenty either way when its all said and done you can say I was the wife that all the other military men wished they had

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