When I talked to my son last night he said their deployment date had been pushed back, He said it was because of something about a contract??? I didn't understand and he wasn't in the mood to explain. Is this common? He said it could be pushed back even more if this contract thing doesn't happen.

Is he currently deployed or awaiting to be deployed?

waiting to go. They originally told him Oct. 6th then it was put on hold.

Nothing is ever really set in stone. They are called to serve the country and if they need them sooner -they whip up new contracts or change them... if they need them later they hold them. Everything is always up in the air... for example, most contracts for my brothers who have been deployed do not have a return date on them... but their families are told "he'll be gone approx. 15 months" now they are being told 18 months... My cousin's hubby is coming home this month - but they do not get the date he is coming home until 5 days before.

So, just learn early - nothing is ever set in stone. For plan freaks like me - it is frustrating. At the same time, it has REALLY helped me to become more laid back and I can focus on the fun stuff - ie: writing, care packages, etc... I have learned it is okay not always have that control. Because I was and have always been wrapped around dates, times, etc... etc... it feels like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders because I will never have 100 control of anything my hubby does. hahahahaha I am not saying all this cause you are a control freak... hahaha I am just lending my experience with an "up in the air" field.

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-Fireball
Army Wife and mother of 3

Ahh! But I am a control freak! I am one of those moms that wants to know where her children are, who they are with, when they will be home, and why they are late. It is hard not knowing or having control of this one especially. He has driven me nuts for years!! I thought it would feel good to let somebody else take control of him, but I still find myself wondering if he's overdrawn his account, if he is behaving himself, if he is doing the things he supposed to do, if his paperwork is filled out right. It's in my blood!!! I am working on telling myself that he is a grown man, serving his country, and if he's in hot water, he deserves to be in hot water. I figured out very early that it's all about "hurry up and wait", so I am getting better. I will try to concentrate on the other three children I do still have control over and let this one go.

Thanks for the good advice. I love just reading all the stuff on here. I have learned so much, and not all of it is about the Army either!

Hahaha... yes, I am such a control freak...that I would zip my hubby's pants not because he can't do it - but I can do it better! ROFL Obviously he has many rules that I can't even catch up now. I like to think my micro-management wifing has prepared him for the Army. ROFL It's all good though. The Army has been REALLY good for me. I am a very strong personality and pride myself on keeping life together regardless of how chaotic it gets.

High five... to mom's who need to know where their kids are, when they are coming home, etc... etc... I am very much that way and will be that way.

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-Fireball
Army Wife and mother of 3

My goal has always been to just stay one step ahead of my kids. Not always easy with 4! Especially when they started hitting their teens. I married my ex right after he finished his 4 years with the Air Force so I never knew what it was like to be married to the military. My hat's off to you. It's hard enough to raise kids and keep going when dad is around, much less when you aren't sure where he is, or when he will be back. I have a lot of respect for you guys!

I was the oldest of four... my mom was like you. She was more laid back... cause I am worse than her... but she was very particular about what we watched, listened to... who we were friends with etc... My mom raised us practically on her own (my dad traveled TONS when we were younger). So her example of keeping it together and not complaining I think has really helped me thus far. We want 6-8 kids... we'll see though.

I respect the parents that support their kids 100% keep up the love!

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-Fireball
Army Wife and mother of 3

6-8??? No way, 4 was my limit. My ex travelled quite a bit when the kids were small, then he left when they started hitting their teens, so I have basically done it all on my own. They are ages 13,16,18 and 22 so I am looking at the downhill slide. It's good in some ways, bad in others. I never thought I would say this, but I don't want them to leave, I will be so bored!!! The thing I dislike the most is teaching them to drive!!! It is sooooo scary!

AHA! You guys all want more than me. I'll be doing good, if I can handle one kid on my own. Don't think I'm ready for kids anytime soon though. Daycare took care of the whole going into super mommy mode! ^_^ I didn't even know I had a mommy mode...though mines still not up to par. Heck I don't even have the mommy skils my little sis has. But she likes kids, and wants like 5, so more power to her, and the rest of you guys that want to help populate the world! ^_^

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