Ok I know yall are getting tired of me but I cant stop writing threads about info on my boyfriend.Its hard knowing he's gone for 9 weeks in basic & 7 weeks in AIT.I am so looking foward to his mother getting this letter about his mailing address.Hearing his voice is wonderful,when he called on father's day it was like my heart skipped a beat.I also know since tommorrow is Sunday he'll get to make one call,so i'm hoping he'll call his mother this time or either me.I already jotted down some things that I can discuss in my letter.And I understand I should stay very poistive.If anybody has any advice or anything that's helpful I would much appreciate it.

Just stay positive in all letters and phone calls. If you cry and carry on, when on the phone it only makes it harder for him. It's great to say I miss you, but it's also great to make him smile and laugh.
It will fly by. Remember his mind needs to stay focused on BCT. So your only helping him if your making it easier on him.

Thanks..im just ready for his mom to get the packet [ugh]..its killing me not to be able to write to him yet!

Then start writing letters! I started writing letters before I had my boyfriends address and then I had some ready to go as soon as I got it! I also put multiple letters into envelopes at the beginning because I had written a few before getting the address. My boyfriend is 5 weeks into Basic, and I've sent 15-20 letters to him and he's sent me 5. Talk about absolutely anything, especially people he knows and outside news. Tell him who you're spending time with and what you've been up to. My boyfriend has said he likes knowing I'm keeping busy, I'm sure yours will feel the same way!

honestly, i have found that talking about the small things is the best... simple everyday things make them feel like they are still a part of your life and are a good distraction. STAY POSITIVE!!! you can be all cute and sappy, but not to a depressing point. Look at yourself as their ray of sunshine!! you give them the strength to push and keep going, and they will need every bit of that they can get! LOL Tell them how proud youare of them and how much you respect them for what they are doing... even if it isn't true. you will never know how much it means to them to hear things like that. the biggest smile i have ever seen on my hero's face was he first time i told him how proud of him i was. made my heart absolutelly melt!! just make the letters as if you were talking to them in person. little touches are always the best, like if you guys have an inside joke, or pet names for eachother. And remember, be STRONG. it won't be forever... before you know it you will be there with them for family day and graduation. and imagine the look on his face when he sees you... it'll be worth every minute....

don't worry about talking about your guy too much! that is what we are here for. trust me, if anyone whines too much about their hero, it's me! LMAO the whole idea of having a support group is for us to talk about how we are feeling and what is going on with our experiences with loving someone in the military. When it is important for us to stay positive and supportive, you need somewhere to refill your reserves, and this is a great place to do it. You can't express your negativities or conserns to him, so that's what we are here for. AND DON'T say anything about your negativities or bad feelings to him!!! Not under ANY curcumstances! it might be too much for him to take.... just stay supportive, and then come to us to express those feelings. if he brings something like that up and you agree with him, then maybe, depending on the curcumstances. make sure of it though! you are always more than welcome to PM me if you ever need a shoulder to cry on or just someone to bit@h to... Be strong ladies!!

OMGEE YALL ARE THE GREATEST!!!

I have already begin to write my letters.I have wrote about 3,and I had to keep writing over to fill him in...lol ...I feel very welcomed to this site,like I can really come here and take about my missing bf problems...lol

Whats a "solider"? oops soldier. sorry lol

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“The day soldiers stop bringing you their problems is the day you have stopped leading them. They have either lost confidence that you can help them or concluded that you do not care. Either case is a failure of leadership.”

Colin Powell

IAVA - Iraq/Afghanistan Vets of America member

Well the dictionary definition is an enlisted man or woman who serves in an army.So that's what I believe a soldier is.My bf offically just became a soldier for the U.S. Army.

OMGEEE this had to be the best weekend ever!! My solidier called on saturday night because his drill sergrant give them back there cell phones,so he borrowed his friends...just to call me!!! We had to be on the phone for atleast a hour and 30 minutes...Then he called at six somethin this morning and we was on the phone forever!! It was aweesome,we talked about everything possible!! But the bad thing is that he told me how he was sick,and the other day his temperature was 102.5 degrees..,but hopefully he'll feel better soon...


Ooooh yeaa this is funny....they have to sometimes call there drill sergeant "Big Daddy",I found that to be real funny,and he got to send me like 4 pictures,and 2 of them were with his friends..and the another on he had his full uniform on wit this big gun..I"M SO PROUD OF HIM!!!